Premarital Sex
According to a recent CNN.com article, 95% of Americans have had premarital sex. The article is from December 20, so obviously I’m a little late jumping on this bandwagon, but am I the only one to find this a little surprising?
On the same/a similar topic, the current issue of Glamour has an article about fathers and daughters taking vows of purity. To me, the article reads like the author wrote it from a completely horrified stance. On one hand, I can agree with her– there were girls as young as four years old signing contracts. There’s no way that they can even begin to comprehend what they are agreeing to. But when it comes to the older girls who are fully aware of just what they are promising, I don’t see what the problem is. The author is extremely concerned about girls who make the pledge feeling like failures if they happen to have premarital sex a couple of years down the road.
I don’t know. I would hope that most girls would have an understanding that their lives are in different places than they were when they signed the contract. I made a similar pledge when I was 12? 13? but I’m not going to fall to pieces if I end up having sex before I’m married. Did you catch that if? Yup, I’m still a virgin. I’m throwing that out there because it might color the way you read my views on premarital sex. Plus I got the *mindboggle* “You’ve never had sex” again just the other day. It’s not a fact that I advertise, but it’s not something I hide either. Sometimes it feels like I’m the only virgin left, even though that’s clearly not true.
Am I still waiting for marriage? Not necessarily, but I do still take a more serious approach to sex than it seems like most people do. Sex within marriage is probably ideal, but I also think sex outside of marriage is anything but casual. I’ve never felt strongly enough about anyone I’ve dated in the past to take that step, which is a good thing, since most of them turned out to be jerks. Just seems to me that if I’ve waited this long, there’s no good reason to go and make it something to regret now.
January 14th, 2007 at 9:25 am
Jenn, this is a great post!
January 14th, 2007 at 3:24 pm
Awesome post.
January 15th, 2007 at 12:12 am
I read that…I had mixed emotions too! It was a nice thought, but at 10 years old, do you really see it as that? or do you see it as a fun, get dressed up, hang out at a special even with Dad thing?
January 15th, 2007 at 11:03 am
I love this post, and your honesty, and your stance on things!